Introduction
The society of today tries very hard in order to present
itself in a decent manner. Student, and late pre-teen, years are by far some of
the most stressful of years of ones lives. With hormones flying all over the
place and mood swings, friends, and fashions changing practically by the hour,
people will strive to fit in. Standing out in this media-crazed generation is
not exactly the best way to be accepted by classmates. Popularity is, to most
people of this generation, essential.
Mood dangles
The mood of the teen-students is a very unpredictable one and it may vary
from day to day or even moment to moment from upbeat happiness to ill-humoured
secession what might not be such a great issue as they think and for no reason.
It is due to the changes in the hormones that they turn moody and could be
distressful and even frustrating for the parents. In return the parents avoid
the overreaction because they know that their kids do not intend to insult them
and it is just due to the changes in hormones that one has turned moody.
Egoistic
Teen-students are frequently in deep in thought with them, a
widespread feature of individuals in tension. They presume that everybody all
over them is concentrated on them as well. Because of this heightened uncomfortableness,
teenagers feel they are constantly “on stage,” and can use hours in front of a
mirror dressing them. It is crucial for parents to see egoistic, not as neglect
for others, but as a form of psychological self-protection.
Criticizing parents
Often the teen-students
blame blood relation of being dispiritedly not in contact, out dated and
antique. Teens are abysmally tender and easily humiliated by either the looks
or the dress of their blood relations or whatever their parents say. Therefore
they tend to be reluctant when they are with their parents anywhere outside
their home. The parents need not to take it to the heart when the teens request
to drop them way before the school. They tend to avoid their dependency towards
parents and want to be self-dependent.
As compared to 1986, in 2006 parents expected more from the
kids. Infact according to a survey, there is a huge amount of difference in
1986 and in 2006 (Jon, 2008, pp 400-401). The ratio of parents expecting their
kids to complete their homework has risen from 90% to 95%. When it comes to
politeness, again the expectation of parents has risen to 87%, which was 75% in
1987 (Jon, 2007, pp 450-451). Also the kids nowadays spend more times with
their parents than it was earlier.
The teenager students of today indulge themselves in the
risk factor and that has increased the concern in the minds of their parents.
The teenagers of this era are involved in fast driving (also drink and drive),
stealing cars from various locations, cross railway lines without any fear or
for that matter destroy anyone’s personal property. It is said that boys will
be boys and for that matter they act as a macho and do stuff that may attract
many feminine eyes. On the other hand teenage girls too are involved in many rebellious
acts such as staying out late night without the permission of their parents and
also taking up drugs. According to Professor Colin Pritchard, Bournemouth
University in the book `Breaking the Cycle of Educational Alienation’ published
in 2005 “The bad news is that 20 years ago boys drugged, drank, smoked,
truanted, stole, vandalized and fought more than girls. Today it is very
different. If the child is found guilty, it is not the fault of the parents as
the kids must be responsible of their own actions. But it is the duty of the
parents to keep them in check and support them at the time of their distress.
Smoking
One of the major problems that the teens of today face is that
they are addicted to the cigarettes and the other items that need to be
banished, at the age of adolescence. The cigarettes are addictive because the
active ingredient of it is nicotine. If one’s parent is indulged in smoking,
give it up for the sake of kids. It is difficult for non-smoking homes to
develop the habits of smoking. Sit down with kids and explain them how much can
it addictive. Tell them how waste of money is the smoking habit. Keep on
addressing the hazards to health (mostly the kids avoid this although they know
it the most. Try not to force them to give up instead apply the need of
discussion as an alternate. Encourage them to regularly ask questions. One of
the main concern is that the kids or as a matter of fact the adults, get involved
in smoking because they find it as a way to relieve stress. In case of this
tell the kids the alternate ways of relaxing their minds.
Night Owl
Many teens in UK like to stay away from their homes all
night long. This has become one of the biggest distresses for the parents. They
always worry about because it’s better for kids to know the difference between
what is right and what is wrong and what is safe and what is not. The parents
should be in touch with the kids and keep them tracking of exactly where they
are or what are they doing at the very moment. It will be easier to track them
in case of emergencies. Reasonable rules utilized by the parents often make the
teenager co-operate with them. If this is not done, then the only solution is
making use of the sanctions such as being grounded.
Drug Abuse
Drug abuse is one of the core issues of the youth and the
teenagers of today. Teenagers make use of drug to find easy way out of the
problems. They take drugs, as a solution to the failures they have faced at
some point of time in their lives. By taking drugs the get on a high or shut
out the real world.
Alcohol Abuse
Another issue that is in relation with the abuse of drugs is
the alcohol abuse. The teenagers when see that the adults are drinking
excessively they tend to get attracted and in process get the first taste of
this abuse. It is important to keep on addressing them the hazards of drinking.
According to 2004′s Nuffield funded study, since the last 25 years problems
like lying, disobedience and stealing are on a rise because of the excessive
use of alcohol and drugs.
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